Friend Zone End Zone?

Disclaimer: Kenneth W. Price…SKIP THIS POST ALTOGETHER. Just don’t even read it! It discusses some sexual things in regards to myself and some of your other little sisters that I know you don’t wanna know. I won’t sleep well knowing you read this so just go’n and skip it.

  

“We became more than just friends

Where do we go from here

After the morning after

I let you in

What's the next move to make

The morning after”

~ Deborah Cox – The Morning After

Recent chit chats with the ladies and reading tha divine Ms Clementine’s recent blog, I have been pondering:

Can we TRULY remain friends with men we’ve had sex with …or as my cousin would say, “that have seen us naked?”

People always want to go back to the question of can men and women be platonic friends with no sexual intentions or interactions. Yes, I sincerely believe that is possible, normal and doable. That’s not what I’m asking. Now I won’t say there aren’t some situations where one side or the other wants to cross the line but not all the time. HOWEVER…once you’ve crossed the point of penetration, is purely platonic possible?

My opinion. No. This is just my opinion. I have not conducted a scientific study with a random sample to support my hypothesis but from what I’ve seen w/ the gaggle of gorgeous gals I hang with and experienced myself… once you’ve seen someone naked, you can’t unsee them naked (that can be a good or a bad thing lmao!!)

Even if you are not interested in dating that person or embarking on an official relationship, you can’t go back. You can’t un-ring the bell; pun intended lol! For you to get to the point of making the decision as two consenting adults to have sex, there were attractions, magnetism, desires and all kinds of other hot & botheredisms that pushed you to the point of someone asking, “Do you have any condoms?” The next day, all of that doesn’t just magically disappear and you can’t pretend it didn’t happen. From that point on, when you are around each other, someone (usually both of the someones) is going to be recalling, reminiscing, repicturing and reenacting what had happened in their mind. If you have already established a great friendship, it might continue, but there will come a point when one or both may want to cross the line or the longing will rise again (hehehe again, pun intended).

Side note: there is the horrible chance that you do your friend and hate it. Then that messes up the friendship in the aspect that you start to avoid them, don’t want to hang out in case they liked it and wanna do it again since you know you have no interest in going there. Just bad all the way around.

Today's story is brought to you by the letters "C" and "N"!

Once upon a time, there was a beautiful brown brunette maiden that met a yummy, chocolate, cupcakelicious prince. The sweet maiden and polite prince began a fabulous friendship filled with long talks, laughter and oodles of fun. They decided they would be the best of friends forever! The maiden never told the prince she secretly thought he was and wanted to give him the business and he never told her he thought she was the hotness. One day, when alone, the prince kissed the maiden. This led to more kissing, touching, fondling, frolicking …and well you get the picture.  

The prince went back to their fabulous friendship…but the maiden began picturing happily ever after. When the highly intelligent and witty maiden realized the prince didn’t want the same, she tucked away her pretty pictures of couple-dom and went back to their everyday friendship. However, from time to time, when the prince and fair maiden were alone, they would do delicious and unfathomable things to one another. After a while, the magnificent maiden decided her heart could take no more torture of dangling romantic notions in front of herself and decided to put an end to all of the romping, cavorting and caressing. She decided their friendship would be one of the ones she’d heard about that wore clothes. For a VERY short time, the prince and lovely maiden hung out and had great times fully clothed at all times. But the mischievous maiden missed making out and magnificent manual manipulations while the passionate prince pined to provoke pecking and the pinnacle pursuit.

In order to have the best of both worlds, they came together and made an agreement for a special kind of friendship that included all of the wonderful exploration and excitement they’d come to enjoy. The merry maiden became perplexed at times as she didn’t want to play their naughty games with anyone else, but yearned for committed companionship as well. The prince simply enjoyed his cupcake …and ate it too (lmao)!

The moral of this story, children, is that if boys and girls have sex, they will not be able to have a normal friendship that isn’t haunted by the physical aspect of their relationship. For me, this usually isn’t a conundrum because when I revoke someone’s privilege of seeing me naked, I generally don’t want to be their friend either. Now there are exceptions to every rule…but that’s not part of today’s lesson. *wink*